Going into marriage, I knew that love would be played out in practical ways within our marriage. However, I had no idea how much the practical side of showing love to my husband would be necessary to keep our marriage running smoothly!
Personally, I am really bad at displaying my love in practical ways to my husband. When it comes to grand displays, I can sometimes nail it but those little gestures that daily remind him how much I really do love him are few and far between it seems.
So, today I am sharing five simple ways that I have found to daily demonstrate my love to my husband in practical ways. Hopefully these will help give you ideas to serve your husband’s more practical needs with love.
Write your husband a few encouraging words.
Two weeks into our marriage, my husband started his new job as a teacher at a new school. Wanting to be a sweet and loving wife, I packed his lunch while he was showering before leaving for his first morning on the job.
And a new tradition in our marriage was born.
We are almost six years into marriage and with few exceptions, every morning I have written a small note to include in his lunch. Most of them have Bible verses that are currently impacting me so I share these verses with him.
It’s simple and takes less than two to three minutes each morning but it means the world to him. (I found out that he stashes his favorite notes/verses in his desk at work which kind of melted my heart too cause he is not a super sentimental guy that way! 🙂 )
Recharge his electronic devices.
Nothing is more annoying than seeing that your device is almost out of charge. My husband loves to play music on his iPod while he wakes up and gets ready for his day. And it is frustrating when he goes to start his day with music and instead finds a dead iPod.
So, as I go through my day, I like to take a quick peek at his devices and see if they are starting to get low on charge. If they are, I plug them in. Hubby always smiles big when he sees that his music is ready to go first thing in the morning and I love taking care of this little service for him! 🙂
Plan an activity together.
Guys like action. Whether that action is on the screen of their favorite video game or actually climbing a steep mountain trail, guys want to be doing something.
My husband struggles when our dates involve simply sitting still and talking. After a few minutes of stale conversation about the kids, we quickly grow bored. We want to be doing something.
So, plan an activity that you and your spouse can do together. If your husband is into video games, perhaps plan a kid-free night of playing his favorite video games. Right now, my husband and I are into playing board and card games. Some of our favorites include Sushi Go Party, Forbidden Island,Code Names, and Queen’s Architect.
Our marriage benefits from actually doing things together because we share new experiences and make memories. Plus there is the bonus of great conversations that come as we are doing these things together!
Take something off his To-Do List around the house.
Personally, my husband hates yard work, especially mowing. Part of this is due to the fact that we have a huge yard and a free lawn mower that requires a LOT of muscling to get it to work. Part of his complete distaste for yard work comes from the fact that he has terrible allergic reactions to all the dust kicked up while mowing.
Since I simply do not have the muscles necessary to take this particularly repugnant chore off my husband’s hands, I hired a local family looking to make a few extra bucks this past summer. They had equipment much better suited to take care of our yard work and my husband was thrilled that he only had to touch a lawn mower once this entire last year!
Find that one thing that your husband just wishes was never on his chore list and see if you can remove that burden for him. If he is anything like my hubby, he will be super excited to have one responsibility removed from his shoulders!
Communicate with his family.
Before having our two children, I had never once personally texted or called my mother-in-law or sister-in-law. Since we live several hours away from my husband’s family, they were definitely getting left out of the loop and I am ashamed to admit that I had a lot to do with that lack of communication.
Now that we have children, I make a point to be in communication via text, emails, phone calls, letters, and even the occasional FaceTime (now that we are starting to figure out the technology! 🙂 )
While it is easier to just let days slip away without making an effort to talk, God has really convicted me that this needs to be a priority not only for his family’s sake but for his sake as well.
Find ways that you can share your special family moments with your husband’s family if that is something he is open to. Whether you send a weekly email just keeping in touch or text a cute picture or video, let them know that they are a part of your and your husband’s life!
Resources That Might Help You Further
The 5 Love Languages. This book can not be highly recommended enough in learning how to love your spouse in practical ways. Once I realized that my husband primarily speaks the Love Language of Acts of Service, I was able to fill his tank with so much more meaningful and loving gestures.
Your spouse will thank you for reading and implementing everything in this book!
Love & Respect. Along the same lines of The Five Love Languages, Love and Respect shows your husband’s needs for respect and offers practical advice to show him that respect plays out in day to day life. I always recommend that if you read one of these books you should read both of them.
What are some practical ways that you have shown your husband love?
If you like to share your ideas, please leave a comment below! 🙂
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